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When you focus on self-improvement and personal growth you innately begin to attract people who notice the positive strides you are making. This attraction compels them to request your time, presence, attention and maybe even your partnership in their business interests. If you are like me you often times feel obligated to help those that request your help or attention. Do you find it difficult to be assertive and say “no” to people’s requests? There is simply not enough time in each day to satisfy everyone. Being able to say no without being offensive and ruining the positive impression others have of you is an important skill to acquire.

Saying “no” doesn’t mean you have to be brash or offensive. There are plenty of polite, yet assertive, ways you can tell people “no” when you need to.

Here are 5  ways to say “no” without ruining the relationship:

1. “No” to now, but “yes” to later. “I’m very busy at the moment. Is there someone else that you value that might be available right now? If not, I’ll be available on ______ or ______ to help you out.”

I find this to be a great way to say “no.” It’s assertive, but also positive and kind. You let the person know there’s no way you can do what they’re asking at the moment. However, you give them the option to ask someone else of value or wait until you have the time to help out.

2. “No” unless something changes. “I’m very flattered and honored that you’ve asked ME. However, I’m not currently in a position where I can take on this responsibility. Could we revisit this after I have finished what’s on my plate? Or can we talk about this at another time if there’s a change in my circumstances?”

This statement says “no” while still being very polite. You let them know how thrilled you are that they’ve asked you, but then you’re honest about how little time you have to commit to their request.

3. A definitive “No.” “I’m sorry but there is no way I can do this. I’m afraid I’ll overextend myself.”

In this manner, you express regret for disappointing the person, yet you still let them know that there is not a snowballs chance in hell you can stretch yourself that thin. For the most part they’ll understand you don’t want to overextend yourself, which makes them sympathetic to the plight you’re in as well.

This answer is very kind and polite. Plus, it allows them to understand where you’re coming from.

4. “No” to attend an event. “I had a blast the last time we got together, but I won’t be able to make it this time due to a scheduling conflict.”

Sometimes we get invited o events that we don’t want to attend or just don’t have the time for. You shouldn’t feel obligated to go. This statement lets the person know you’ve had a great time in the past, but this time you have a previous obligation.

5. “No” to loaning money. (Otherwise known as “Hell No”) “I make it my practice not to loan money to friends and family.”

Do we really need to go any further on this one?

Make it clear that this is the practice you have for everyone, and you’re not just saying “no” to him or her personally. If you feel compelled to go against this practice though, do everyone involved a favor and draw up a promissory note if you expect to be repaid. Otherwise, consider it a gift.

Remember that saying “no” doesn’t make you the bad guy. Use these 5 ways to say “no” without ruining the relationship to maintain your focus and intent.  Being focused and determined requires strict attention to your obligations. Too do the most good you must decide what to focus on and be able to stick to it.

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Our thoughts draw us to what we are thinking, and by constant repetition of positive affirmations, you can creative positive subconscious thoughts. Positive affirmations work only when they are translated into action. By conditioning your mind through positive affirmations, you are clearing out the negative thoughts, so that your dominant thoughts are of success. Why is it then that you feel that your affirmations are not working?

Seeing Results
There can be many reasons why your affirmations may be ineffective for you, and the first step in making them work is in understanding the relationship between your affirmations and your emotions.

Positive affirmations may take the form of “I am going to buy a big car”. You may not see the end result immediately, but the key is in persistence. There are a few reasons why your affirmations are not working, or that they are producing limited results. You must first believe in your affirmations before it can create an impact in your life.

How to Make them Work
1. Use Present Tense
Always make sure to phrase your positive affirmations in the present tense. Instead of the phrase “going to”, try using the phrase “have”. This makes your affirmation something that is happening now, rather than something that is waiting to happen in the future.

2. Avoid Negativity
It is important to avoid negative thoughts and words in phrasing your positive affirmations. This is easier said than done, as most people make this mistake. Instead of using the affirmation “I am no longer poor”, try substituting it with a more powerful one, such as “I am well off”. This is a use of more positive words that reinforce your preferred end result, and does not carry a hint of any unwanted scenarios which may confuse the subconscious.

3. KISS
Another point to take note of is to keep your affirmations short, sweet and specific. Get to the point, and make it specific, so that you do not confuse your subconscious with unnecessary words.

Lastly, the use of several techniques can help make your affirmations more effective. These include the use of constant repetition, engaging your emotions, persistence and belief.  Try implementing these elements when you create your positive affirmations, looking out for your phrasing and other tips that may make them less effective. With constant practice, you can soon achieve the goals that you set out to attain.

I definitely practice my positive affirmations daily and constantly follow sites like Subconscious Mind

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Every winner in any arena will tell you that initiative is necessary. Network marketing prospecting, fitness goals and personal growth all require similar action. To build your business, get in shape or simply capitalize on opportunity, give your attitude a jump start and take action with these tips.

1. Set goals. Purpose gives meaning to life, so figure out exactly what you are trying to accomplish and make definite plans to move in the right direction. Give your goals deadlines for a sense of urgency and to maintain your forward momentum. Take Stephen Covey’s advice: “Begin with the end in mind.”
2. Give YOURSELF a pep talk. As Earl Nightengale once said, “We become what we think about most of the time.” Develop a vision of the hugely successful person you want to be, and review it often. Always affirm the positive in yourself and others.
3. Network with winners. The attitudes and habits of those you associate with are bound to rub off on you, so choose your friends wisely. Choose a positive trait from each of your friends and try to enhance that trait in yourself.
4. Compete with yourself. Instead of constantly comparing yourself to others, work to improve on your own past performance. Your efforts to continuously achieve more than you have before will help you stay competitive with others, as well.
5. Learn every day. Every day holds new lessons for those willing to learn. Expect to make mistakes, but be sure to analyze them to find out where you went wrong and how to avoid repeating the error.

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Our greatest fear can be healthy or unhealthy. There is a huge difference in being safe or mindful of danger and being afraid of a challenge that will help us grow.

Those are my thoughts. What are yours??

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Always aim higher than you believe you can reach. So often you will discover that when your talents are set free by your imagination you can accomplish ANY goal.

Always believe that you will ultimately succeed at whatever you do and never forget the the value of persistence, discipline, and determination.

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Achieving goals can be a tricky task. I have set some very lofty goals for myself and I sometimes get down on myself. Whether you are a network marketer or just working on your personal development remember to concentrate on your progress when things are looking down.

I hope this video helps:

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Erykah Badu has been in the news lately for bearing it all. As a network marketer I realize that the sometimes we have to do the same but in a much different way. By remaining true to ourselves and our prospective business partners we hope to develop a rapport based upon trust.

I made this video in an attempt to relay that being “naked” can be the most liberating start anyone can have on their journey to personal growth. That growth could be related to your self development, fitness goals or network marketing business.

As a growing network marketer, I have had to embrace my nakedness by realizing that even though I have not achieved the great success of some of my peers online. However, being equipped with the tools and strategies my mentors have, I feel confident and trust that it won’t be long.

90 days to a new me is dedicated to the development of us all by providing social proof that we all endure similar challenges.

Can this really work? NOT WITHOUT YOU.

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Power of mind over matter is definitely a skill that requires dedication. Many of the books we read and seminars that we attend tell us that the ability to program our subconscious mind will unlock many of the doors that have been locked to us. Isn’t amazing that when faced with the same obstacles, people of like backgrounds have outcomes that are completely different? Does the power of mind dictate their results? Or, as we are accustomed to saying, “Is it all in our heads?”

It’s easy to define conscious effort but to define consciousness is more difficult. Our conscious effort dictates how we move through the world day to day, step by step. What we wear, eat, drive. Where we work, worship etc.. I think you get my point. To define consciousness we must really have a look at what plays in our subconscious mind.

If you are not sure what’s playing, it might help to tape your thoughts a lot like I did in this video:

http://90daystoanewme.com was developed to show that we all have the same type of challenges in our lives. By harnessing the power of mind over matter we can in essence reprogram our thinking and demand positive results. These positive results will have no choice but to become evident in our personal growth, fitness goals, network marketing business or whatever we are working on.

What challenges are you working through? How are you training your subconscious mind to bring all of your dreams to fruition?

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